1) HOH I love you so much with all my heart, I'm sorry to have made you feel like that spanking was necessary.
2) I don't want a spanking ever again, so please HOH tell me what I have to do to avoid it!
I actually said both of those to him!
So we sat down and I asked him to tell me what rules were important and I asked him to give me black and white consequences to them.
This was really hard for him. One thing you need to know about my beloved is that he is an artist! He thinks like an artist and acts like an artist.
Not the painting type, but a musician.
He is a bit 'away with the fairies' sometimes, and so pinning him down on anything is hard to do.
I have often gotten a spanking because I have shot my mouth off and gotten cross after he has told me a million times that, 'I'll fix that dripping tap tomorrow darling'.
Love him, but there you have it.
Of course it isn't all bad. He may not be the one who decorates (always me!), or mows the lawn (me again!) but I get some lovely extras.
During the first stage in our relationship, we shared a bed for the first time, (nothing naughty he said, 'I want to be close to you' - love him!). I awoke to see him propped up on an elbow, staring into my eyes and with a smile he said, 'I've written a song about you'.
Now, for a commitment-phobe, I freaked out totally but what a sweet gesture.
So anyway, he's very arty-farty, as we like to say in the UK and so doesn't like to be committed to saying, 'you will get 30 lashes with the switch for saying the F-word'.
So after an hour, we came to a compromise and here they are, re-affirmed and tweaked a bit after a few years in his crazy world we call DD!