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Thursday, 20 September 2012

No spanking challenge? I don't understand


I am confused, perhaps you can help.

Many of the other Dders in blogland have taken, or are taking the 'No Spanking Challenge'.

I think this sounds really exciting and I totally respect these women for it.

But to be honnest I don't really get it.

I feel that I am always trying not to be spanked. I never go out of my way to get punished, why would I, that would be foolish. So surely a 'no spanking challenge' is just what normal Dd is?

If I said 'I am trying especially hard this week not to get a spanking' wouldn't that mean that normally I only try a little to do as I'm told, rather than doing everything I can to avoid a spanking.

Honestly, answers on a postcard please, I really don't see the difference.

I think if I told my husband that I was now attempting a 'no spanking challenge' he might reply 'If you can actually avoid a spanking, then why don't you do this normally'.

Again, respect towards those women would are doing this. I think I am on a 'No spanking for Life' challenge, I doubt I will succeed!

C

9 comments:

  1. I originally started myself on a 30 day challenge at the beginning of the year because I was having a month where it felt like I was getting spanked every day (not the real frequency but its how it felt) and decided I work hard on changing what was happening at the time so I could say its "been 30 days". For me, it rollercoasted into a 60 day challenge. I was still struggling with a few things that were landing me in trouble too frequently and I wanted to know if I could do it again.

    On the LDD Network, we started the 7, 30, 60 day challenge to go punishment free, primarily for the newer people to DD, and for a friend to obtain the goal.

    The year long challenge is sort of the same thing - something to help eachother attain, a goal to work towards etc. It's a way of spicing up our DD life!

    I agree though with you on the fact that we should always be trying to behave in a way that avoids spankings... period. Sometimes its easier to look at a goal in smaller increments than at a larger goal that may or may not feel attainable.

    That's my explanation as to my reasons; perhaps, other women have different reasons.

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  2. I hear you. Oddly, even though I am an avid spanko, I still avoid punishment of any kind- always. It took my husband a while to trust me and believe me. *That* kind of spanking happens very rarely around our Blissful Dwelling Place, and that's the way we both likely. Punishment is hard on both of us emotionally although I can handle the physical part just fine. I still avoid it staunchly.
    I can see Christina's point, and how it might help some with their mindset, or for those new to the lifestyle. But it wouldn't be necessary for me either. I'm doing well with my mindset - just like you.
    H and I are happy the way we are, and we both want to keep the peace as much as we can. We have our stress and issues, but maybe not as much as the next couple.
    And I can tell you this - there's plenty of spanking for other reasons.;-) And that's just fine with us!
    Nice blog! :-)

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    1. Thanks Elysia. Some interesting points there.
      c

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  3. THank you Christina that is very helpful.
    c

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  4. For me, I don't do a challenge because I will be even more upset if I mess up and don't reach my goal. Spankings of any kind upset me, and that's just how I am.

    I take it one day at a time. I'm jealous of those who can make a 7 day challenge! Sorry, I am! :)

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    1. Ha. Im jealous of people who can make a month! I once made it to three weeks, but it was a one off!
      C

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  5. I think for me it is just another way to help me personally watch my step that much more. I am always trying to be good and avoid a hot butt but if I set a goal for me then it is easier for me. If I fail at my goal then not only do I have a punishment coming but I also have to deal with me letting me down and not only my hoh.

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  6. First I would love to congratulate you both on your pregnancy! Such lovely news!

    I’m very new to exploring the DD lifestyle (my husband doesn’t even know this interest me yet) so this might be a really weird question for you experienced ladies, but if I might ask:
    If you make ‘not being spanked’ in to a challenge (a kind of game, that is) aren’t you trying to ‘behave’ for all the wrong reasons in that case? If you behave because You want to reach Your goal so You can be proud, wouldn’t that be kind of selfish? Isn’t this DD thing all about being loyal to your Husband? Shouldn’t ‘trying not to get spanked’ be all about trying not to cross Him, not to break His rules and trying to be a good wife to Him? So that He does not feel the need to spank you because you are behaving properly at all times?
    (and then another but related question): I read about ‘maintenance spankings’. Would you explain those to me and how are they to be avoided whether you are ‘on a challenge’ or just trying to keep your but from hurting?
    Thank you so much for explaining your interesting ways to me! Love Maria.

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    1. Maria, Thank you for your comment, I totally agree with you, that is the point I was making here. I too, don't understand.
      C

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