There were ups and downs,
It was hard to understand how to do it or how to create this lifestyle when no one we knew practiced it.
So, like everyone in this modern age, we, or more correctly I, searched online for information, advice, friendship and companions.
I needed to fell like I was doing it 'right'. I wanted to follow another's lead, instead of allowing my husband to lead and create his own path.
I have also seen the same in many other Dd women, who want the lifestyle to work.
It's dangerous to compare ourselves and I found myself getting agitated if our Dd marriage didn't fit the mold that I had seen online.
In the early days our lifestyle swayed from being over strict with harsh punishments and an obsession on the rules, to inconsistency and a laid back approach.
It was hard to know where we stood in domestic discipline, especially in the UK, where we have no friends of family who practice it.
Now we have found our own way and life is good.
My husband doesn't need to impose strict rules as I am now naturally submissive. He rarely punishes me, and when he does he is firm but fair.
We only gain now from it, not lose in any way.
Our bond is so strong and we have no power struggle like all the families around us.
I wish we hadn't had to go through the highs and lows in the early days, but that's life I guess and that's learning.